The Ultimate Love Letter

I heard something on the news this morning that caught my attention. Jenna Bush Hager stated that studies show that love letters can fill you up for over a month advising that your emotional state will remain positive for weeks at a time after reading good tidings from loved ones.

I have written several love letters and have been the recipient of a few and can testify that they definitely warm your heart as well as provide greater insight into the true feelings of the giver.

The love letter of all love letters is available to all and has been compiled in one (typically leather bound) collection.

The one who loves us completely and deeply without conditions has given us pages and pages of expressions of what He did to win us to Him, His thoughts toward us and His plans for our futures together!

In Jeremiah 31 he tells us that His love is everlasting. In Zephaniah he tells us that He takes great delight in us and rejoices over us with singing. In Ephesians he says how great His love is for us and Romans 8 he lets us know that there is no one or thing that can separate us from His love!

This love letter was meant to boost your esteem and raise your level of awareness of how lovable you are!

This week get into your love letter! Crack it open and experience the elation and peace that it brings. Fall in love again with the one who “will never leave your or forsake you”. Trust His words and bask in its greatness!

Say Yes to You

 You are fantastic, phenomenal and unique.  When God made you He was showing off His creative ability.  He was flexing his artistic muscle! He made you on purpose and for His purpose!

We all know that our fingerprints make us unique, but did you realize there are also biometric identifiers such as the pores on your skin, your skull and even your body odor that prove your distinctiveness?  There is absolutely no one else similar or comparable to you on the planet.  You are 1 in almost 8 billion. 

When he determined you before you were formed in your mother’s womb (Jeremiah 1:5) he spoke an affirmative response regarding you.  You are here because of God’s Yes!

God has already said “Yes” over your life so it’s time for you to start saying what He says about you!

Saying “Yes” to you requires yoking yourself to God.  A yoke is a harness or collar used for coupling. For farmers it is a wooden crosspiece that is fastened over the necks of two animals and attached to the plow or cart that they are to pull.  It allows for the two animals to work in synchronization which produces greater quality and quantities of work.  The same holds true when we connect to God and live in harmony with His blueprint for us.  Psalm 37: 5 directs us to “Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” What is He bringing to pass?  His desire for you.  Or in other words, what He said “Yes” to.

Your “Yes” comes with a new certainty about yourself.  If we believe that God is great, all knowing, and full of wisdom, and that “God is not a man that he should lie; neither the son of man that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do it? Or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good? Numbers 23:19 then you must accept that you are enough. 

You are enough because you are like God! Genesis 1:27. “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” He has given us everything we will ever need to succeed in all aspects of life from the beginning when he blessed us and gave us dominion. (Genesis 1:28) This is further documented in Ephesians 2:10. “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” This scripture tells us that God considers you His masterpiece.  You are the best that He has! He did His greatest work making you! We marvel at the creation, while the Creator marvels when He looks at us! How can you know this? Because He gave his only begotten Son for you!  Therefore, you cannot allow any voice to whisper in defiance to this known truth! So believe it, receive it, declare and repeat it, “I am enough”!

Saying “Yes” to you is accomplished by actively pursuing God’s prearranged intentions for you. There is no plan greater than the one who has established for you.  We are instructed in Matthew 6:33 to “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” This means there is built in provision when you seek God’s way!

  • You must Yoke yourself to God
  • You must believe you are Enough
  • You must Seek your destiny

You have mastered saying “Yes” to others. In 2019 it is time to perfect saying “Yes” to You!

3 Things to say “No” to in 2019

Fear, Feelings and Frustration

Fear is not God given.  2 Timothy 1:7 (NKJV) 7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.  Our creator does not want nor expects us to live with terror, dread, alarm, distress or anxiety.  He opposes its entrance into our personal spaces.  In fact He provides a weapon against fear – love. 1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” When love is mature it gives fear an eviction notice banning it from occupancy. 

Fear is sent to immobilize us. It is the equivalent of a stop sign on a street.  Fear comes to render you powerless to move ahead which prevents you from getting to your destination. In 2019 we cannot allow fear to stop our faith.  We need faith to live “our best life”.   It is with faith that our words become powerful and situates us to become mountain movers.  Mark 11:22 It is also by faith that we are saved.  Therefore, it is with no surprise that the enemy would use the defense of fear to fight our faith.  Fortunately, we can say “No” to any gift we do not want.  Voice your “No” and back it up by stamping “Return to Sender” so it can be given back to the owner.

In 2019 we cannot permit our feelings to have any control. Operating based on an expression of our soul will not end well.  Our feelings fluctuate like our blood pressure.  They are usually based on both external and internal stimuli and can be regular one minute and elevated the next.  It is dangerous and risky to be led by them.  Instead we must rely on the thing that will never go away and will stand forever- the Word of God. Psalm 119:89 tells us “Forever, O Lord, Your word is settled in heaven”.  God advises “My covenant I will not break, Nor alter the word that has gone out of My lips” (Psalm 89:34). “The grass withers, the flower fades, But the word of our God stands forever”(Isaiah 40:8).  

Success is often thwarted when we live, move and work in our emotions because good decisions cannot be made with insecurity.  When your emotions are sliding up and down your choices will be slippery and fall-inducing causing you pain, anguish and costing more than you are willing to pay. 

When we learn to say “No” to our feelings and function on truth we will not forfeit the favor God has for us! 

Things will NOT go your way every day of 2019.  Know this upfront and learn to make the appropriate adjustments when needed to your plan.  Revisions are necessary and beneficial.  Sometimes plan A had faults and defects that were essential to work out before executed.  We must take a step back from time to time to review and reconsider.  Perhaps when you made the plan your ideas were small and not equipped for the growth God intended. Alterations are not just to cut things down for fitting, but to expand as well.  

Do not allow obstructions regarding the when, where and how make quit.  In 2019 we will not allow frustrations to keep us from fruition.  It is time to walk into the fulfillment of the things you have worked hard for.  Being armed to say “No” will get you there. 

No Means No

How many times have you determined an event, request or relationship did not fit your schedule or enhance your life and finally became bold enough to say “No”; but, relented because of pressure from others?

Why do we go against our own decisions to please someone else? To make another’s day is easier and simpler while making ours more complicated?

Why is it so hard for us to use a two letter word that everyone knows the meaning of?The word “No” has taken on a negative connotation. It is thought of by both children and adults as being a mean and disgruntled word. The user is thought to be thoughtless, ofttimes cruel and inconsiderate. Regardless of the thoughts the word “no” conjures in your mind it is a vital part of our language and equally critical to our well being!

We should be encouraged to say “no” when a request does not meet the schedule or more importantly the standard of our day. Our well being is as important as anyone else’s and must be prioritized as such.

When we finally get the courage to voice what we have been feeling then we must follow through.

We use the phrase “no means no” in discussion to symbolize that we will not backpedal on our choice, that we stand by our decision. We think this is regarding others; however, the first person we must convince and stand up to is ourself.

Be bold and incessant concerning your election to prioritize your responsibilities, agenda and well being and do not withdrawal .

Remind yourself over and over that “no means no”. Stand firm and be steadfast. You will eventually grow accustomed to saying “no” when it is not beneficial to you. The peace you receive will change your existence for the better.

Make the change! Add “no” to your vocabulary and watch 2019 become some of the best days of your life!

Ready, Set, No

It is said that a baby can understand the word “no” from around the 6 month mark.  My son learned to say the word “no” very early on in the development of his speaking skills.  Clearly, the word “no” is a part of our language and lives from the beginning; however, in our adult lives it is one of the hardest words for us to express to those around us. 

Having a hard time telling others “no” becomes extremely problematic because it can stop the progress that you have planned and prepared for.  

How many times have you planned to go somewhere, or buy yourself something or attend an event, but a family member or friend calls with a “crisis”  needing a ride, or require you to come with assistance in the form of yourself or your money? The truth of the matter is that in most cases you did not want to go, help or provide, but you did it out of obligations to other family members, or because you did not want to appear selfish, or you did not want to hear the thoughts of others concerning the situation.

To be clear, I am not referring to an occasional, once a year, or a true emergency condition.  It is good to be there for friends and family and even total strangers at critical points in time.  I firmly believe that the blessing and reaping for supporting those in need will be rewarded by God above; but you cannot allow others to spitefully use you.  

We must be cautious of what we allow in our lives.  There are some who would plan your day and calculate your finances to suit and benefit them.  I am not suggesting you cut these folks off, but I am providing a word of caution.  Be aware of their motives. 

Do not allow any one or anything to put you out so far that you must take additional steps and use supplementary means to arrive at your starting block again.  

During the holiday season we played board games with friends. Often a card would direct the player to take steps back instead of forward when a question was not answered correctly.  In the case of the game the player controlled the direction and determined whether there would be an advancement or digression, and the same is true in life. Do not allow the wrong answer to propel you backwards. “No” does not seem like it but is frequently the correct answer. 

Your “No” can put you in the position to “Go”.  Do not be afraid to say it!  And remember your “no” is not just for people, but for any condition that hampers you from making forward moves. 

Tune in for Part II No Means No

Practical Advice For the New Year Part 2

If you are reading this you have arrived in a new calendar year. It is officially 2019.

Today will be spent resting from the activities leading up to the “ball drop” and perhaps cleaning up from a New Years Eve event.

Let’s also use the first few days to clean the cobwebs from our minds. Take the duster out and sweep away old thought systems that immobilize and hinder progress.

Dust builds up quickly and shows up in the same spaces; therefore, if it is not removed weekly it stacks up. So, by this time of year the dust mounds in your mind are recognizable and are more than likely causing you issues.

When dusting a corner in a home or office an inventory of individual dust particles is not taken; but a clean sweep is done.

The same should be done with the thoughts that you are holding onto that have not brought increase or enjoyment to your life.

In the new year do not allow room for opinions of others or ideas that do not better you. When you clear out the old you make capacity for additional greatness; so, do not delay. Get to it!

Happy New Year!

Practical Advice For the New Year

The turning of the year brings with it new hopes and expectations for greater experiences, more opportunities and increase.

It would be wonderful if these things were built in, ready, set to go when the clock chimes twelve on 1 January; however, we know that is not the case.

Here’s a little advice to help you navigate in 2019.

1. Set boundaries

Boundaries are necessary. They mark territory and provide protection. All relationships need delimiters. When perimeters have been defined expectations are also set. This eliminates assumptions. When everyone is on the same page the journey moves along smoothly.

2. Stop playing the fool

“Everybody Plays the Fool” is the title of a popular song written by J.R. Bailey, Rudy Clark and Ken Williams and made popular by the group Main Ingredient. The song tells us that “everybody plays the fool sometimes, there’s no exception to the rule.” We can admit we have been foolish, but we do not have to continue. We have to understand that it does not serve the purpose of our life being either a puppet for someone or being the fool attempting to control and manipulate someone else.

My grandmother, Lula Mae, used to say “I love you, but I won’t be a fool about you.” In 2019 we should prescribe to this principal. Love and foolishness DO NOT go together. However, love and respect are great partners as well as love and appreciation, and love and truth.

3. Aspire Advancement

Standing in the same spot for lengthy amounts of time can be torturous. Most people become extremely bored, your legs get tired and your curiosity of what is going on around you becomes a provoking force. This is why it is used for punishment.

In 2019 we must seek to get out of the corner! Whether it be on our jobs, relationships, or other aspects of our personal lives! Let 2019 be a year of growth and expansion.

Stretching ourselves does not take extreme amounts of time or energy, but it does take a commitment. Start small by doing some of the following ideas:

Read a new book. Go to a new bookstore or get a library card and download them for free! Lots of workplaces have subscriptions to online libraries and training to enhance your knowledge of applicable techniques and areas of needful work experience.

Explore new destinations. It can be an exotic far away place, but it can also be in your city or the next town over. I have lived in WV all of my life and still have much more to see).

Learn a new skill. If you have always wanted to learn to sew, cook gourmet, paint or swim, take a class. You are not to old and it is never too late!

Tune in next post for more advice to make 2019 a fantastic year!