Lots has been sad about Forgiveness and the flip side of Unforgiveness.
Forgiveness is described as the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense by simply letting go of it. By simple definition Forgiveness is freeing and it works to keep harmony in families, groups, organizations and other circles of society.
It is biblical to forgive. The concept of forgiveness is mentioned 42 times in the Old Testament and 33 times in the New Testament. We talk about it, sing about it and rejoice over it, but how many of us walk it out?
A dam is a blockade that halts or confines the flow of water or underground streams. A dam can also be used to collect water or for storage of water which can be uniformly disseminated. Dams generally function in retaining water. Unforgiveness is like a dam. It confines and stays the flow of love, joy, agreement in the area where it sits. It sticks out and is prevalent and visible to all around it. You can feel it in a room when it is present. It is not shy or bashful and always makes itself known. At least that’s what we think. But it can also be subtle and unassuming.
Atherosclerosis is the hardening and narrowing of the arteries. It works silently and slowly blocking arteries and putting blood flow at risk. Atherosclerosis begins with damage to the endothelium (a lining of the artery). This damage leads to the formation of plaque that slowly builds up unknowingly and is the usual cause of heart attacks, strokes, and peripheral vascular disease.
This is how unforgiveness can work and cause the most destruction. This type of unforgiveness works its way in with a small offense. He said something you did not like or she did something that upset you. It goes unchecked, unidentified and uninformed. Often times the offender has no idea that infraction was assumed. If they did a remedy could have been provided. A comment here and a mention there builds the transgression into greater levels of indignation and causes the breach to grow and the plaque to grow thicker. Eventually the unforgiveness causes issues in the wellbeing of the person who is holding it because in most instances the unforgiven does not have a clue about it all.
Choosing not to forgive keeps people dammed. You become obstructed in many ways. Physically you confine yourself to places where your offender will not be. But mentally your thoughts are congested and consumed with offense limiting your creativity and ability to focus forward. It keeps you bound to a past event and unable to move on.
If you are sitting in the room of unforgiveness I challenge you to break out! It is time for you to move on and up! There is too much at stake and too much ahead of you to stay stuck in the past. It is time to be present and to present the gift of a totally free and satisfied you!